Fainted tonight

Needed to close the windows in my car and lock it up for tonight. Grabbed my keys, walked down the steps from the house into the garage took a couple of steps and everything became blurry and I could feel myself falling. Ended up on the garage floor. Holly and Aaron heard  something came out to investigate and found me on the garage floor. After going back in the house they followed me upstairs in case I fainted again. Took my glucose reading – 98, which is very low for me.  Checked it a bit later and it was 104.  I’ll check it again before I go to bed.

Letter sent to my birth father . . . ….

Mailed a letter to my birth father last Friday (09/08/17).   Now patiently waiting for some sort of reply.  My fingers are crossed.  ■ 

Cool nights continue into September ….

Sent a letter to the person I believe is my father. Sent it Friday. Now to wait for some reaction from his end. ■  Chili Fest XIV is coming up this Saturday. Hopefully the weather will be good, the food hot and the music scorching. ■ Went to a college reunion this afternoon.  Good to see old dorm mates and their wives.  ■  Time for me to get to bed.  ‘Night. ■

Cool nights–in August?

We’ve had a stretch of cool nights in August this year. It’s been delightful to sit outside. Still have mosquitos, but those haven’t been all that bad either.  ■  Mowed 4 lawns today. That’s a record. Most of the time it’s 3.  ■  Chili Fest XXIV is coming up on the 16th of September. We’re getting ready for it. I’ve got a list of things to get done before it arrives.  ■  On Ancestry.com I now have 274 4th Cousins, or closer.  I think when I started I had something like 120. I’m guessing that more matches are found as more people get their DNA tested.  Our son sent his DNA test to Ancestry.com today.  Now to wait for his results. ■ It’s late and way past my bedtime.  Night’ ■

Family search . . . . ….

So, back in the fall of 2016, my wife and I decided to do the Ancestry.com DNA test. It was not done to look for relatives. It was just to see what we had in our genetic background. ■  As you can see (if the picture is large enough), I came out 84% Scandinavian, 11% Great Britain, and 5% other regions – a little Irish and a little Finish.  ■ I’m adopted and never had a thought of searching for my biological parents. I loved my parents and they’ll always be my parents.  ■ My mother, however, wanted me to search for my birth mother. I didn’t want to.  ■ But now armed with some genetic background, I thought maybe I’d give it a shot.  To do so, I needed an Ancestry.com account – which I signed up for.  Now the search was on.  ■  I had very little information from the adoption documents.  Just my birth mother’s age; that she was from another state; that she had been a nursing student; and that she and the father had been friends for several years and that she had never told him of her pregnancy.  Not much to go on, but I did find a note that I had made that my mother had called me on my 55th birthday and given my the name of my birth mother. ■ The name was the key. How she found that info I don’t know, but she did. ■ With the name I used Ancestry.com’s search feature, along with Google, and phone directories. I won’t give you her name because she doesn’t want anyone to know. (yes, I did find her.)  Some of the major keys were the obit of one of her brothers. That listed all of his children (my 1st cousins), and his surviving family members – 3 sisters. Finding that let me know that she had been married and had a new last name. Actually she’d married twice and both husbands had passed away – but now I had her current name.  ■ I was able to find her current address and I sent her a letter. Never received an letter back, nor any type of communication. The first letter was sent in January 2017. I sent a second letter to her with a self-addressed stamped envelope with a card in it for her to check one of the boxes. Box 1 – I am your mother, please contact me. Box 2 – I am your mother. Please don’t contact me.  3 – I’m not the person you’re looking for.  ■ Received the card back – She is my mother, but doesn’t want any contact with me. ■ Bummer.  But before I sent the 2nd letter out I saw that I had a new 1st-2nd cousin – related by DNA. While I was considering contacting the cousin, she took the initiative and contacted me – because she couldn’t figure out how we were related. ■ We exchanged a couple of emails. Between the two of us – and my wife – we knew it had to be one of her uncles. ■ She had three uncles – 2 had passed away, but there way one still living. ■ My cousin took a look at the pictures in my wife’s facebook account, saw one of our informal wedding pictures and boom!  I looked like either the uncle, or one of his sons at that age.  So now we’re pretty close to 100% knowing who my father is – and that he’s the uncle that’s still alive!  ■ That’s where it sits right now. I need to do a letter to him and explain who I am, etc.  ■  Getting a DNA test and having an ancestry.com account has led me on this journey.  It’s been great and a lot of fun. It’s been a mystery and fun to solve. ■  I would encourage anyone to do it.  You may find out that you’re related to people that you never knew, or expected to know.  ■ This has been, I think, the longest post I’ve ever written. So to all my loyal reader, (yeah, there’s only 1, I think) thanks for reading.  ■ TFB. ‘night.

Finding my father ..…. . . .

At the beginning of this journey in finding my relatives I never thought that I’d be able to find my father. Mother, yes, but father – no. I started with my birth mother’s name. I found her, but had no name for the father. We had no clues to help us except that my mother had told the hospital that the two of them had been friends for several years. I had originally thought that she had met the father in Chicago where she was going to college. No so. This brought the search back to North Dakota.

Still no name to go on. Then on Ancestry.com I new person popped up on my DNA results listing this person as a 1st-2nd cousin. No name for this person and I was thinking about contacting the person via Ancestry.com. Within probably a couple of days of having her pop up as a relative, she contacted me.  We exchanged emails and are continuing to do so. Now I had names. While I won’t give out names, my cousin had 3 uncles that were possibilities. Two of them had passed and one still living. While waiting for a response from my mother I began a search on the paternal side.

Facebook and telephone directories are great places to search. Looking through Facebook I came upon a person that looks like me. And I think his father is the uncle still living. I think I’ve found a half brother!

It’s almost 2 in the morning. I need to get some sleep. Goodnight.

Reply received .. . . .

I received a reply from my second letter. It’s not what I had hoped for, but at least it’s a reply.  She acknowledged that she is my mother, but doesn’t want me to contact her anymore. She also stated that she doesn’t want her family to know about it.

2nd letter sent . .. .. ..

Finally sent another (2nd) letter to my birth mother. Now it’s the waiting that’s going to kill me. I hope to get some reply from it.

Getting the house ready to sell . . .

… but not immediately.  We have to update the kitchen, stain some wood, a little paint here and there.  But the kitchen is the big one!  I don’t know what it’s going to cost me (new cabinets, new countertop, new sink, new floor), but it’s going to be a lot.  ■  Emailed a bit with my new 1st cousin. She would be on my father’s side of the equation.  I think I’ve got it nailed down to one of two people.  One passed away in 2001, but the other is alive.  ■  Holly’s hosting a bridal shower for our nephew’s wife-to-be.  I think he’s a nephew, but this whole uncle, aunt, nephew, cousin thing is somewhat confusing to me.  ■  Finished a drawing today.  Two more to do.  ■

Lots to cover …..

I logon to Ancestry. com at least once a day – just to see if I have more people related to me.  A couple of days ago a new person popped up and was a 1st or 2nd cousin.  Last night she contacted me through Ancestry!  This is exciting. ■  The lumps in my left leg don’t seem to be anything. That’s good news.  ■  TFB see ya.

Hello, again … .. … .. . .

Hi, there.  Haven’t been keeping up with the blog. Seems like I get to involved with everything else.  ■  Aaron’s over in Naples, Italy with the Navy, but just for a couple of weeks.  ■  Haven’t written, or sent a 2nd letter to my biological mother yet, and still no response from her.  ■  Need to get to Jewel-Osco today to pick up some meds. ■  I took back the job of webmaster for the Kalo Foundation.  I did their website for beginning in 2006 and ending in 2014.  Now I’m back doing it, but am using the WordPress platform.  It’s taking a lot of learning, but it’s fun.  I like stretching my brain.  You can see the website at:  https://www.kalofoundation.org.  ■  Need to get going.  More later.  ■

Lumps in left leg . . . . .

I have two lumps in my left leg. Tumors, or just fatty lumps? Don’t know, but brought it up to the doctor at the VA in McHenry.  She sent me to get echo grams of them. Actually only one, cause I didn’t have the 2nd lump at that time.  Found the second one the night before the exam. I’ll find out results in the next day, or two, or at least what the echo gram showed.

Still no word from up North. . . .

It looks like a 2nd letter is needed.

Can’t believe it’s been this long .. . . . . .

It’s hard to believe that it’s been so many days since I last posted.  Too many.  ■  Still no word from North Dakota. Bummer, but maybe she goes to Florida, or someplace warm in the winter.  I’ll give it another couple of weeks.  ■  Working with WordPress.  It’s a lot of learning, making mistakes, and solving issues.  Fun to have to put the old thinking cap back on.  ■  I’ve been pretty much staying off of facebook.  That’s a real time-waster. I’ll check it every now-and-then.  ■  Holly’s back from Louisville.  Good to have her home.  ■  Aaron’s school is going well.  He’s on spring break right now, but still has homework and labs to do.  ■  Got the Kalo website well underway.  That’s a capture of it on the left.  A lot left to do.  ■  Time for bed. ‘Night.  ■

Time flies . . … . ..

Yes, time goes by very fast. Faster as you get older, too.  ■  Lots of stuff on my plate – development of a new Kalo Foundation website.  I need to learn WordPress and all of it’s ins and outs.  So far I’ve installed in on two development websites. It was easy for the first domain, but took me a couple of days to get it installed correctly in/on the 2nd site. ■  Trying to control my blood sugar.  I’ve learned that bread is not good for me to eat.  It raises my blood sugar very quickly.  ■  And still no response from my letter. ■  It’s time for bed.  ‘night all.  ■